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The ABCs of Self Leadership

As a woman who leads, inspires, and aims to make an impact, if you are feeling stress and overwhelm in a world filled with uncertainty, it’s hard to show up powerfully.
At times like these it is imperative to stay strong, steady, and clearheaded — so that you can do your best work and support others.
I think of it as cultivating self-leadership. With this ability you can lead in every aspect of life and work.
When you cultivate self-leadership you will be able to stay steady with more ease.
What self-leadership looks like
As a visual thinker, I have imagined a few scenarios that you may find helpful to envision what strong self-leadership can mean for you.
Imagine feeling like you are able to stay upright on the deck of a boat in rocky seas.
Imagine feeling like you are a gyroscope, and that when you tip in the wind, or wobble under pressure, or when the sand beneath your feet starts shifting, you always come back up.
Imagine being a tall palm that is flexible and bends in the wind during a storm, and not only stays rooted, but can stand erect again when the winds subside.
Focusing on self-leadership enables you to be strong and resilient.
The A, B, and C of self-leadership
There are many ways people think about and approach “self-leadership.” In the context of attending to your own wellbeing in order to lead and support others effectively, these are the components I offer you to consider.
Action — based on Awareness and Acknowledgement
A key first step is to take stock of what you are feeling. Having tools to help you identify your emotions enables you to then acknowledge what is at play, rather than aiming to simply muscle through when you are feeling less than steady.
With that clarity you can take action to process your emotions, so those heavy emotions move through you rather than hijack you.
And taking action of all kinds is an excellent antidote to feeling disillusioned or stuck, no matter the reason.
Bolster — to show up Boldly
Effective leadership — of yourself and others — requires true belief in yourself.
Having clarity about the emotions that were hampering you, then processing those emotions to help you step into action, you will see matters more clearly. You can bring a clear head to determining the best ways to move forward, and your confidence will naturally expand.
And there’s a bonus when you bolster your confidence: You feel that you have agency in situations that would otherwise feel daunting.
Create!
You can create practices that support you to manage stress when it arises. You can create a mindset of curiosity, openness and consideration of new possibilities no matter what shows up. You can create expressively to open your heart.
This is your time to cultivate the creative power inside of you that is waiting to be unleashed. That’s what will make you an unstoppable leader!
Let’s go deeper together
I invite you to join me for a deep dive into HOW to activate the ABCs I have shared by subscribing below to be a part of the Big Ideas: Inner Circle. I am excited to share some of my signature tools to help you build self-leadership. You will get instant access when you subscribe.
And, as a subscriber, you will also have access to live bi-monthly calls with me.
Start today, and know that each month you will have a BIG experience with me as your guide. These will be enriching and will always include special tools you can use on the spot. Together we will activate your creative power in new and remarkable ways!
I look forward to seeing you there!
With love,


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